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UPDATE: Firstly, a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has donated to the 'forget-me-not' room at Royal Surrey County Hospital. 

 

Secondly, October 15th was International Baby Loss Awareness Day.  To raise the profile of Surrey Sands, awareness of stillbirth and neonatal death and funds for the new maternity suite at RSCH we organised the Surrey Circular Cycle Challenge: 150miles over 3 days starting on IBLA Day through all the major towns in Surrey to include up to 20 friends and family.  Cyclists include: James Avery, Andy Nicholas, Justin Woodington, Lee Kemp, Paula Coates, Emma Haselden, Helen Hannah, Nina Cerullo, Helen Jermy, Zoe Cunningham, Ben Jeffries, Vanessa Lanham, Joyce & John Turton, Steffen Krause, Roy Howard, Alastair Greenan, Julie & Matt Lawrence & Nicky Broadwell

To read more on this Challenge please see our website:http://www.cycleforsands.co.uk

 

Finally, a group of family and friends took part in the London 10km race on Sunday 12th July 2009 in a further effort to raise money towards this worthwhile project: Victoria Avery, James Avery, Jackie Avery, Mick Avery, Jennifer Turner, Caroline Nicholas, Andy Nicholas, Justin Woodington & Jen Fry. Well done to all!

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Dear family, friends and supporters,

As many of you know our son Benjamin Michael Avery died on 29th March 2009 before he was born.  Ben was born asleep at 3.10am on 31st March 2009 weighing 5lb 8oz exactly one week before his due date.  We love him very dearly and although we did not get to share life with him outside the womb we have shared love with him over the last 9 months, today and forever more.

Ben was so beautiful, he shared his Mummy's lips and small ears and his Daddy's nose.  He was tall (46cm) with long legs, and had big but delicate, soft hands and feet with long fingers and toes and a full head of dark brown hair.  He looked so at peace and we cherished the hours that we spent as a family saying our goodbyes.  He was more that we could have ever wished for and we are enormously proud to call him our Son.

Findings suggest that were were just very unlucky and the umbilical cord was tight around his neck.  This cause of death affects 2-4% of still births.  1 in 200 still births occur after 24 weeks gestation, this is 10 times more that cot death.  1 in 1000 still births occur at full term like Ben. 

Ben was born at Royal Surrey Hospital.  We used the existing Alice Bereavement Room  which is very small and clinical.  It is also situated in the maternity ward with all the associated noise of happier arrivals.  

It is Royal Surrey’s wish to create a brand new bereavement suite to provide better facilities and enable professional, specialist support and advice to take place in a quieter, more homely space.  Surrey Sands has been working closely with Royal Surrey since June 2008 to raise £40k to achieve this aim and we are very grateful for any donation towards the project. 

It is intended that the new ‘Forget-Me-Not Suite’ will provide a larger delivery room with sleeping area for both parents, an en-suite bathroom and an adjoining nurses room so that the baby can remain close by.  They also hope to provide space for siblings to play which will allow precious time together as a family. 

If you would like to support the new ‘Forget-Me-Not Suite’ and give other parents in a similar situation to us, a tranquil, private setting, your contribution will make a significant difference to a great number of families.

Any surplus fundraising will go towards the other 6 hospital bereavement suite projects.

 

Thank you,

James and Victoria Avery

For more information please visit:
http://www.surrey-sands.org.uk/

Raising money for

Sands, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity

Sands, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity

Charity Registration No. 299679 & SC042789

Sands supports anyone affected by the death of a baby, works in partnership with health professionals to try to ensure that bereaved parents and families receive the best possible care and funds research that could help to reduce the numbers of babies dying and families devastated by this tragedy.

Donations 386

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such a worthwhile cause

Donation by llinos john on 22/06/10

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Thinking of you as always.

Donation by Mick and Jackie Avery on 31/03/10

£25.00

+ £7.05 Gift Aid

Donation by Caroline Nicholas on 31/03/10

£25.00

+ £7.05 Gift Aid

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Thinking of you both. You've been so strong & brave & have achieved so much for Surrey SANDS. Ben will always be with us.x

Donation by Jessica Laflin on 27/03/10

£20.00

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throughts are with you at this special time Baby Benjamin will always hold a special place in all our hearts

Donation by susan smith on 25/03/10

£25.00

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Donation by Liz Speake on 22/03/10

£30.00

+ £8.46 Gift Aid

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precious and priceless are our memoriies especially so this mothering sunday - with a hearful of love

Donation by jennifer turner on 12/03/10

£50.00

+ £14.10 Gift Aid

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memories so precious and priceless - always with a heartful of love

Donation by jennifer turner on 12/03/10

£50.00

+ £14.10 Gift Aid

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To my beautiful nephew, Ben, you are always in my thoughts. Love , your Auntie Jess.x

Donation by Jessica Laflin on 31/01/10

£10.00

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Always thinking of you.

Donation by Philippe & Pascaline Chretien on 13/01/10

£250.00

+ £70.51 Gift Aid

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forever in our thoughts, with much love

Donation by jennifer turner on 24/12/09

£100.00

+ £28.21 Gift Aid

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In memory of Ben - always in our thoughts. Love from Auntie Caroline, Uncle Andy, Megan & Thomas xxxxxxx

Donation by Caroline Nicholas on 24/12/09

£25.00

+ £7.05 Gift Aid

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In memory of our darling grandson Benjamin. You are always in our thoughts but especially so this Christmas.

Donation by Nana and Grandad on 23/12/09

£50.00

+ £14.10 Gift Aid

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We have been kept up to date with all your fund raising activities by Jennifer and Peter. Brilliantly done . Wishing you all the best for 2010.

Donation by isobel and peter lowe on 22/12/09

£50.00

+ £14.10 Gift Aid

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our thoughts are with you both at this christmas

Donation by susan & ron on 17/12/09

£25.00

+ £7.05 Gift Aid

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Bum no longer sore. Well done everyone!

Donation by Alastair Greenan on 15/12/09

£180.00

+ £50.77 Gift Aid

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Well done to you all. Very worthy cause!

Donation by the McColes on 07/12/09

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With very warm regards to you and your family. Your story has moved us and we are so impressed with the work you are doing for this important charity.

Donation by sonja Millar on 27/11/09

£50.00

+ £14.10 Gift Aid

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Well done Zoe!

Donation by Nick & Verity on 23/11/09

£25.00

+ £7.05 Gift Aid

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Well done Joyce - great achievement.

Donation by Catharine White on 10/11/09

£10.00

+ £2.82 Gift Aid

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It was great to be a part of your cycling shennanigans even for one day. I felt honoured to be involved. Lots of love to you both emma xxx

Donation by Emma Haselden on 10/11/09

£50.00

+ £14.10 Gift Aid

Donation by Fiona Thompson on 04/11/09

£30.00

+ £8.46 Gift Aid

Donation by Jenny Cox on 03/11/09

£10.00

+ £2.82 Gift Aid

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Congratulations for raising so much money for such a worthy chariety. Love to you both. Jane X

Donation by jane newman on 02/11/09

£20.00

+ £5.64 Gift Aid

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just to say our thoughts are withyou both and all that you are doing

Donation by susan & ron on 26/10/09

Donation summary

  • * Online donations£12,090.00
  • Offline donations£7,187.06
  • Text donations£0.00
  • Total raised£19,277.06
  • Gift Aid£3,051.44

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