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On Sunday the 26th April I shall be running the Flora London Marathon on behalf of Macmillan Cancer Support. I ask you to kindly sponsor me as much or as little as you can afford. Please read below the reason for me putting my self through the worlds most famous road race.

In February 2006 my mother in law Elaine Hopper was diagnosed with a sarcoma in her hip. She was just 52 years young. The doctor gave her just 11 months top to live. The news hit us like a bolt of lightning directly from hell. Elaine was such a healthy woman walking over 5 miles a day with her dog and doing her part time job as a cleaner at an elderly lady’s house. She never smoked and lived a good wholesome life. She began treatment starting with radio therapy then going on to chemotherapy. She continued the therapy 4 days and nights in Bournemouth hospital 7 days nights out for the whole of the summer and autumn 2006.

As winter approached there was a glimmer of hope as the doctors believed the tumour to be destroyed on the outer edge but still living in the centre. We spent the beginning of 2007 in hope that Elaine had turned a corner but as the summer approached a cat scan reviled our worst nightmares. The tumour was back to its original state and sending spurs of cancer to her lungs. Our worlds were falling apart again. My wife went part time at her job working for the RSPCA to spend what time she could with her best friend, her mum. And I gave in my job working for my Dad as a window cleaner to start my own window cleaning business just so I could earn more money to enable us to start a family and provide Elaine with her 1st grandchild, some thing she had always looked forward to.

In September 2007 we conceived and began the wait until our child joined us in the world. Without a shadow of doubt it gave Elaine something extra to fight for because by this time she was growing weaker every week and every chemotherapy session became harder and harder.

Elaine spent many days and nights in Bournemouth hospital and found the nurses to be to busy to bother with any emotional care. But one place she did find some comfort was from the Macmillan volunteer that would visit her and her husband Mick with kind words of support and advise on how to cope with what was undoubtedly an un just life sentence.

The nine months passed quickly for us but not so for Elaine as by now she had become so weak she was retired to a wheelchair the wonderful people at the British Red Cross had loaned us. But that wheel chair was truly a god send as it enabled Elaine to visit my wife Helen and our baby girl May-Rose in Poole maternity hospital on Friday the 13th of June when she was born. The weeks and months before May-Rose was born Elaine looked in constant pain and always in fear on the dark black cloud that hung over her always, but on that day she appeared pain free. And smiled like she always did but this time with a smile of true happiness. After that day Elaine came to visit the two of them in Bournemouth hospital after they had been transferred for after care as Poole was to busy to cope. Once Helen and May-Rose came home on the Wednesday they both went round Elaine’s to see her. Elaine was able to see her grand child for a couple of hours before she became to tired.

The next we heard from Elaine was via Mick who informed us she had been taken in to Bournemouth hospital because she was struggling breathing. We wanted desperately to see her but with a new baby it was deemed far to risky to enter a hospital with the risk of picking up a nasty virus. After a few days the hospital staff and specialists agreed that Elaine had not long to live and there for would be more suited in the Christchurch Macmillan ward. There she would be able to be moved in to the beautifully kept garden and be able to see us and her new grandaughter. Elaine stayed in the Macmillan ward with its wonderfully helpful and compassionate staff and volunteers for just 6 days until she died on the 1st of July just 18 days after becoming a Grandmother for the 1st time.

Without the Macmillan ward at Christchurch Elaine would have been robbed of seeing her daughter, grandaughter and son-in-law before she died. Although the hours we spent waiting for Elaine to pass were filled with sadness the garden we all stayed in some how made them bearable. And we will be eternally grateful to all the staff and volunteers there. There all knew what words were comforting and put us and Elaine before the coffee breaks and shift changes that Bournemouth hospitals nurses and doctors found so important.

My wife is coping as well as can be expected with her loss and adapting very well to being a Mum without her own there to give advice. But I would like to do something in her honor, something that would of made her proud and know she will be forever missed and loved.

Well Done Dean!!! Mum would be so proud of you. Good luck. xxx Donation by Loopy Lou 13/03/09  

£100.00 + £28.21 Gift Aid

All the best in your training & running the marathon Donation by Karen Cox 10/03/09  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

You really are the best big brother in law in the world!! Mum will be watching over you every single mile!she'll be so so proud of you. good luck xxx Donation by Shell!! 08/01/09  

£30.00 + £8.46 Gift Aid

good luck dean! Donation by becki elkington-clarke 08/01/09  

£20.00 + £5.64 Gift Aid

Elaine was a dear friend of ours who we miss dearly,Dean is a wonderful son in law and Helen the most devoted of daghters we are so proud of you dean Donation by wendy&frank dean 30/11/08  

£30.00 + £8.46 Gift Aid

Really sad story mate! Donation by Neil Hastings 28/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

Lost my mother & other relatives to cancer. Well done for doing this. Get prepared well. Did half marathon recently and it was hell!! Do it & thanks Donation by Feen 26/11/08  

£200.00 + £56.41 Gift Aid

you'll be great dean, good luck! Donation by nat,matt & erin 26/11/08  

£20.00 + £5.64 Gift Aid

good luck ,as a runner i know it aint easy .well done Donation by eddie driscoll 25/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

From a fellow window cleaner. Donation by Rob Hall 25/11/08  

£5.00 + £1.41 Gift Aid

Nice one Dean Donation by Rachel Baines 24/11/08  

£20.00

Good luck mate - Hope you reach your target....and the finishing line! Donation by RO-sheen 24/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

hope you manage the full 26 Donation by anonymous 23/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

good luck mate, hope you stay injury free Donation by p bailey 23/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

my mum too died of cancer 5 years ago..good on you for doing this. Donation by p.holley 23/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

My Mum died suddenly from cancer last year, Ive been meaning to donate to Macmillan. Matt Donation by Oakley Matt 22/11/08  

£20.00 + £5.64 Gift Aid

Best of luck! Donation by Baldeagle 22/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

Dean, in anticipation of you running under 3hrs 40 minutes; here's the tenner; good luck. Donation by Tosh 21/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

Good luck fella, get under 3 hrs 40 mins and I'll donate another tenner. Donation by Tosh oh go on then 21/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

Good Luck from Dave and Tosh Donation by Dave M 19/11/08  

£100.00 + £28.21 Gift Aid

Keeeeep on training Donation by Joyce Thomas 19/11/08  

£100.00 + £28.21 Gift Aid

good luck fella, sorry for the loss. Donation by alan hardy 18/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

good luck from michelle's work friend charlie. Donation by charlie 18/11/08  

£10.00 + £2.82 Gift Aid

Run forest run... Good luck mate sure you'll be fine Donation by Steve Marshall 18/11/08  

£20.00 + £5.64 Gift Aid

Good luck for April mate, and sorry to hear about your mother in law Donation by Andrew Lewins 17/11/08  

£15.00 + £4.23 Gift Aid
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