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Weʼre raising £3,000 to Get 2 vases sunk into the base of my son Ravis headstone and a bench in memory of my 8 month old happy and healthy son so was cruelly taken

Thetford, UK
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The Town Council want me to remove the beautiful grave Ive made for my soN Ravi that died in 2005 aged 8 months old of SIDS, was known as Cot Death

The thought of drstroyong his grave so it can be a Lawn Cemetery is too much for me to bare. The beautiful little statues I have on the base have to go as do the railings and the white marble stones and the vase his Portuguese grandparents sent from Portugal . It was his English grandparents that first made the grave for me as it was too much for me to deal with in my grief . It looks lovely and i look after it to keep it tidy. Strimming around it is no problem.

As only 2 vases that are Council approved are allowed now. Im raising money to have two special vases made to be sunk into the base as the rules state , that I wasnt informed of when Ravi died. If the grave is to be destroyed Id like to have them and a bench nearby to sit on which has a plaque with Ravis name on to stay always . Its where my ashes will be .

I now cant afford to buy these vases or the bench which orher than the headstone to reflect how much he was loved and is still missed. I may have tp make the base wider too . Ill get different quotes but as its got to go through the council to buy the bench , it costs more than usual . The vases will be made to their specifications. As a disabled single woman my imcome is limited and this is breaking my heart and upsetting me more daily , wondering if Ravis grave is nextto be go, leaving only a headstone abd a patch of mud . The vases and bench is all Im allowed to leave in memory to a loved baby .

Ive been to the local newspapers and am handing in a formal letter of complsint this week , along with a petition of over 800 signatures , but have already been told the rules will be enforced , breaking my heart even more and causing more pain , which I didnt think possible as Im still grieving for my baby 13 years later and this all makes it feel very fresh and raw . The photo is from the front page of the local Bury Free Press paper . Ive done all I can . Ravi is worth fighting for and the pain involved . Ill never stop but I need help now. All hekp is appreciated to hekp me continue and have a beautiful resting place still for him .


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    6 months ago

    I’ve received a reply and to summarise the Town Council said I wasn’t allowed to look after Ravis gravesite and it will be destroyed and turf put down in front of the headstone , which is all that will be left . I’m absolutely devastated. Thankyou for all the support given . It meant such a lot to me . I just wish it had been a positive outcome :( All I can do now is to raise money so there’s still a resting place for him that shows how much he was loved and missed so much still. Thanks to all that are supporting me . It means the world to me

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Page last updated on: 7/5/2018 3:13 PM



  • Veronica Valli

    Veronica Valli

    Jul 5, 2018

    You are in my thoughts and I am so sorry for this loss. May you always know that you are loved an dsupported.


  • Miran Da

    Miran Da

    Jun 11, 2018

    H.F.H (Hugs from Holland) xx


  • Julie Hamill

    Julie Hamill

    Jun 11, 2018

    Good luck Maria with love x


  • Stefan


    Jun 10, 2018

    Hope It’ll work, keep fighting xx


  • Jo Ward

    Jo Ward

    May 23, 2018

    😘 xxx


  • Maria Stewart

    Maria Stewart

    May 12, 2018

    This is such an important cause to have somewhere lovely the family and friends of Ravi can come and remember him . He was loved by many and was always smiling and happy so he was precious to us .

Maria Stewart

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Maria Stewart

Maria Stewart

Thetford, UK

Due to rules made in ‘85 enforced in 2017 , now the Council want me to destroy Ravis gravesites I’ve made so it’s easier for them to cut the grass by mowers . I don’t want them to drive over his grave or it to be removed as others have already been removed. I can only fight it

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