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On Monday 22nd June, I was taken poorly to Leighton hospital after receiving advice from the 111 service, during tests in a&e it was found that I was pregnant, it of course came as a shock as it wasn’t a planned pregnancy However it explained all the weeks of being sick and feeling poorly. I was experiencing a lot of bleeding which straight away the worst you think of is a miscarriage. After many hours at the hospital, blood tests and scans the nurses found what appeared to be an ectopic pregnancy in the right fallopian tube, however it’s not a straight forward procedure and a miscarriage was still an option.

An ectopic pregnancy is when a fertilised egg implants itself outside of the womb, usually in one of the fallopian tubes. The fallopian tubes are the tubes connecting the ovaries to the womb. If an egg gets stuck in them, it won't develop into a full grown baby and your health may be at risk if the pregnancy continues. It’s a life threatening condition. There is no real reason found as to why it occurs. Some of the symptoms may be bleeding before or after your period, pain on your tummy and like normal pregnancies feeling sick etc. It is very hard to diagnose an ectopic pregnancy and that is the reason why you will have to have multiple blood tests, scans and keep getting checked to make sure you are healthy and okay and that the pregnancy is in fact an ectopic one. It is very hard to go through an ectopic pregnancy and you may feel like it was your fault that it occurred but know that nothing can prevent it from happening and there is nothing you can do to stop it!! 

We had to keep going back and forth into Leighton to have internal and external ultrasound scans. Abdominal checks, blood tests and discovered that my pregnancy hormones were going up instead of down which meant that the baby was still trying to develop and it wasn’t a miscarriage, my pain wasn’t getting better and I as a whole physically and mentally wasn’t doing very well,  yesterday morning    ( 29th June) we had yet another appointment to determine a 100% that it was an ectopic pregnancy and I needed treatment as my hormones weren’t going down. 

Going through an ectopic pregnancy is hard, you have got 3 choices to how it’s treated:

- expectant management which is watching and waiting to see if the pregnancy can resolve on it’s own without any treatment and your body absorbs it

- medical management which is an injection of a drug known as Methotrexate which is injected in a muscle on a bum cheek (used in chemotherapy)  You are strongly advised to not get pregnant for 3 months after this injection as it will cause damage to your baby 

- surgical management which means having an operation under anaesthetic where the ectopic pregnancy is removed as well as the tube, but don’t worry you will still be able to get pregnant as long as there is still one functioning ovary

 All three of these options come with risks, in our case it meant that my body wasn’t absorbing the pregnancy back in which meant I had a choice to make. We felt that the best choice for me was the medical management, it’s a really strong drug and it knocked me out for hours when I got home, it makes you feel sick and dizzy as well as other things but as well as that it stops the pregnancy from developing any further. 😞

 We were taken into a room with two doctors and explained thoroughly what was going to happen, the doctors remained very respectful and couldn’t express enough how sorry they were for what was to be the loss of our baby. They then handed me the papers to sign to terminate the pregnancy, it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do but I knew if I didn’t my life would be at risk too. 

It’s a hard thing to go through for yourself and your partner, it’s draining mentally and physically and it feels empty and lonely, you have got no choice over the life of your baby and it’s a very sudden loss, but the best thing to do is to stick together and know that you are not alone. It is the most painful, scary and emotional experience of our life which is why we want to raise awareness about this condition as we didn’t know much about it ourselves. 1 in 80 pregnancies are ectopic and unfortunately the baby can never be saved. 

So in order to raise awareness we decided to create this page and raise money for the Ectopic pregnancy fund, we are planning on climbing snowdon as soon as it’s open and safe to do so, we would love it if any of our friends/family wanted to join us on this journey, if you would like to come and climb it with us let us know! please share and donate 💛

I would also like to thank the nurses and doctors at Leighton hospital for making this scary experience feel as comfortable as it possibly could, Ward 25 were amazing. 💙

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