Topman have stopped selling this t-shirt which appears to be making a joke of the excuses perpetrators use for the serious domestic violence they commit. Thank you to Topman.  Let's continue to take a stand against perpetrator excusing messages by donating to prevention projects.

This kind of t-shirt is contributing to a culture which thinks domestic abuse is not a big deal.  

Tender Education & Arts work to end the domestic abuse that kills 100 women and 20 men in the UK each year and affects many more. Every day, Tender become more and more aware of the things survivors have to endure and are confronted with people sympathising with excuses such as 'he was provoked', 'he was drunk', 'he couldn't control himself'. Topman's design team obviously don't understand how prevalent and how damaging these excuses are and how often they are used against people who have experienced extreme violence. The psychological violence that goes alongside this kind of abuse leads to victims being manipulated into believing excuses like 'I was having a bad day' are acceptable.  



There is no excuse for domestic abuse.


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Tender Education & Arts

Charity Registration No. 1100214

Tender promotes healthy relationships based on equality and respect. We use drama and education to prevent domestic abuse and sexual violence in the lives of young people. This year is our tenth birthday! Join our Ten for Tender campaigning to help us celebrate

Donations 11

Donation by N George on 07/04/12


+ £2.50 Gift Aid

Donation by Mary on 07/04/12


+ £1.25 Gift Aid

I think education is the only way forward and promoting violence through humour on a t-shirt does not help.

Donation by Sabina Browne on 17/01/12


+ £1.25 Gift Aid

With each small step we walk a mile. .

Donation by Teresa Morettri on 22/11/11

Donation by Timothy Franklin on 01/11/11


+ £1.25 Gift Aid

text donation

Donation by David McGinn on 19/09/11


+ £0.25 Gift Aid

via sms

Donation by Lucy Bastin on 17/09/11

Donation by Felicity on 14/09/11


+ £2.50 Gift Aid

Donation by Nerissa Payne on 14/09/11

Thanks for turning Top Man's awful behaviour into something positive.

Donation by Tanya Jones on 14/09/11


+ £2.50 Gift Aid

Good luck with the work of your organisation. There are no executes for domestic violence.

Donation by karina brisby on 14/09/11

Donation summary

  • * Online donations£95.00
  • Offline donations£0.00
  • Text donations£1.00
  • Total raised£96.00
  • Gift Aid£24.00

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