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- High Wycombe, UK
- 26 days to go
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We are two women with a vision, which is to support as many people as possible to break free from abusive relationships. We are strong independent women who have previously been caught in the web of Narcissistic abuse. We have so many shared experiences and our driving force is our passion to support others to break free. Despite our significant experience working in the Local Authority, something we have both found is the lack of understanding about the impact of Narcissistic Abuse in the professional arena. We have set up this support to target individuals who have either been let down by professionals or those who are struggling to make sense of what has happened to them. So many are being prescribed anti-depressants, as the symptoms of this abuse are not recognised by professionals. The knock on effect of this can be catastrophic as this can give perpetrators the upper hand to use the women’s mental health as ammunition against her. We have set up a support package to help people and want to spread this far and wide which is why we are asking for help to support victims of this brutal form of emotional abuse. It is World Narcissist Abuse Awareness day (WNAAD) on the 1st June, slowly this abuse is becoming recognised, but not fast enough.
This is my own personal story and is the driving force behind my passion to help others who find themselves victim to one of these horrific Monsters:
Me before "Meeting the Master of Deceit"
Me literally "Sleeping With The Enemy" 2 days into a nervous breakdown which finally forced me to get out.
My name is Sarah; this is my story, I have been a victim of Narcissist Abuse my whole life, in various forms, parent, partner and even friends! This is my story of how I got played by an instrumentalist of the highest order and my seemingly amazing ability to attract such beasts! I was the perfect victim, damaged goods. I met the man who was going to change my life unlike any before him, he was my soul mate, my destiny, I was head over heels, he perfected the Love Bombing stage like a Trojan, in fact in those early days I often said, wow, you are just too good to be true! Sound familiar? I was vulnerable, recovering from a horrific marriage breakdown (he also displayed highly Narcissistic traits), blind to every red flag, you know them well I’m sure, we only need each other; you’re a bit special; I’m going to make you need me; I know how to treat a woman like you; you shouldn’t be alone; music to my codependent ears on every level. He must have rubbed his murderous hands with narcissistic glee, I was wide open to his game of soul destroying, psychological Murder, I was addicted, trauma bonded, he had my brain rewired in no time at all. On the surface I appeared to have it all, great job, high energy, 2 beautiful daughters, a nice house, I fit his criteria perfectly; I even had curly blonde hair, (like his ex wife, you know the crazy ex they all despise), his perfect trophy. I was subjected to every trick in Narcville, he played me hard and fast, put me on that Narc pedestal, idealized me and then began the devalue stage. They are masters of deceit, unbeknown to me he had no capacity to love, to empathise, to show any form of compassion at all and while my energy was being depleted daily, he displayed all the typical behaviours’ of every Narcissist Personality Disordered person my research has lead me to understand. Soon I was clinging desperately for that idealised life to return, the one he promised me, that perfect man, my soul mate to come back, but it was too late by this time I was merely his puppet and he was pulling my raw strings to shreds. The crazy making, the oh so murderous silent treatment, the manipulations, the threatening misogynist behaviour, the crippling disrespect, the smear campaign during the many abandonments, the inequality, the punishments dished out each time I dared to defend myself and believe me I desperately tried, igniting his Narcissistic rage over and over until I was broken, just a shell of my former self. I felt worthless, my shame engulfed me, overwhelmed me, isolated from friends and family. His insidious abuse was ruthless, my boundaries were smashed to smithereens over and over, his cruel words, Oh yes, they all seem to have this secret language only known to other Narcissists, I still don’t understand it, are they born with the script? Do they go to Narc school? Yet at the same time I am finding us victims also have a similar language as we try to get others to understand what has happened to us, all to no avail, I know now that no one other than another victim of this abuse could ever begin to understand, it really is an indescribable form of abuse that takes you to the depths of hell. My intelligent brain knew he was killing me, literally, but I just couldn’t escape. Each time he left in a “narc” rage, I researched; I spent hours, days and months desperately seeking answers, for a cure, for anything to explain what was happening. I knew it was wrong, I knew he was deflecting (gas lighting) all his nasty, evil ways onto me but I was addicted, trauma bonded to a monster. I needed my fix (HIM) and he knew it, abandonment is my weakness (I shared that with him, my raw pain of childhood abandonment) and he used it frequently to punish me. My mental health deteriorated fast, no article, book or counsellor could give me the answers I so desperately needed. I eventually fell to the depths of despair, I had a nervous breakdown, I no longer cared if I lived or died, I became so ill I just couldn’t see a way out and just as I was on the verge of giving up, a miracle happened. I found the answer, I met my lifesaver, wow I wouldn’t be here now telling my story, hoping to help you too if I hadn’t met her. She validated everything I knew I had been feeling for so long but could not understand, she knew my story before I even opened my mouth, just like she and I will know yours. She showed me how to cure my addiction in just 21 days and wow; I’m so grateful, thankful to finally have found my freedom, the answers I had been seeking and my life back. Following the initial detox, I still had a journey to take, I still do, we all do, but it is a journey that excites me, gives me a reason to get up every day and smile at the day ahead and you can have this too, trust me it’s so worth it and the day you realise you are no longer addicted, the fog has cleared and you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, you will experience such liberation, such joy and a sense of peace that you’ve probably forgotten felt like. Thank you for reading my story, I desperately hope you will take the leap too and let us help you cure your own addiction, because it’s so worth it.
If you are yourself or know someone who is being abused in this way please view the link below to a website where help is available.
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