Weʼre raising £2,000 to Apply to the courts for a Contact Order to see my grandchildren
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In 2012, my daughter Gabrielle was in a relationship which turned into Domestic Violence. She was 16 at the time.. Belle fell pregnant but the pregnancy ended in a Molar miscarriage! This tore my daughter apart mentally both because of the miscarriage and the violence towards her! Belle spiralled into severe depression and in turn, turned to using alcohol and drugs as well as crime! Although I understood why she had, I had to kick her out of my home for the safety of my other children! Belle lived in a supported hostel but was soon kicked out of there too and she ended up living on the streets. I asked her many times to come home, but she refused saying she didn't want her siblings around alcohol etc. Belle formed a new relationship and went to live with her boyfriend Stuart!
At 19, Belle fell pregnant, and Social Services became involved as Stuart was using drugs etc. In 2015, Belle gave birth to my granddaughter Amelia-Rose, but at a few months old, she was taken from her parents care by Social Services. Stuart would not allow me or my family to have contact with Amelia-Rose. It tore me apart - I was at her birth and had an automatic bond with Amelia-Rose. Stuart had previously known that Social Care was taking Amelia-Rose and told Social Care he wanted Amelia-Rose to live with his relative. I requested to be Amelia-Roses' permanent carer and so Social Services carried out an assessment on my medical background with my permission!
A doctor at my registered surgery provided my medical history even though she had only met me once for literally a 3 minute appointment. In her report about me, she had stated that ''Due to Caroline's sex addiction and depression, I would have serious concerns for Caroline to have children in her care''.
I did not know about this content until I received the full assessment from the Social Worker! I made a complaint to the GP surgery stating that I have never had an addiction to sex
I was invited to attend a meeting to discuss my complaint. Nothing was resolved, and I continued to complain and attended several other meetings. Again, nothing was resolved. Just before the last meeting, another partner of the surgery Dr McAllister admitted to me that Dr Turner should not have said what she did and he offered to write me a letter to give to the judge who dealt with my Amelia-Roses' case ( It was believed the foster carer was the Aunt to Amelia, but when Social services did a DNA test, the father was not the father therefore the aunt is not the aunt.)
I sent the letter to the judge and I was asked to provide further information which I did.
Social services told me I'm not allowed to ever see my granddaughter due to the foster carer not allowing me yet the step father still sees her even though he uses alcohol and drugs.
During my complaints procedure, I applied to the court for compensation as I believed that what Dr Turner said about me contributed to me not being allowed to see Amelia. However, Dr Turners solicitor told me that if I Carried on with the case, I would lose and she would ask court that I pay her legal fees so I closed the case.
I researched Dr Turners qualifications and she has no qualification in Addictions and no relevant training to make or back up the comment she made about me.
I have every single letter regarding every aspect of this case and I still believe Dr Turner is accountable for the outcome of the loss of my granddaughter... Because of this, I have to see my GP regular for depression etc ...
My complaint still isn't resolved and I decided to leave it. I went on to ask that my medical notes be amended and anything to do with this issue has a note stating it is a GP error. The Dr said they will put a note on my file stating patient disputes. But I told them that this is not good enough as it makes me look as though I don't agree with the GP, I want it stating the the GP made an error by writing what she did.
This case is still ongoing since 2016.
In 2016, I founded the 7 Petals Organisation, Our aims are;
* To obtain automatic contact rights for Grandparents should there be no criminal convictions, maltreatment etc which could cause harm to children.
* To build relationships with the Minister of State for Vulnerable Children and Families in order to make Automatic contact rights compulsory using our Petition
At 7 Petals, the most important thing for us to do is to obtain contact with Amelia-Rose & Lillie-Mae. Once we have done that, we will then be able to focus on other important aspects.
* Work with families who have lost contact with grandchildren, to educate them on their rights for contact
* To research the roles grandparents are playing in family life
* To speak up for grandparents on issues that affect them, giving grand parents a voice.
* To provide information to grandparents in all situations, or are struggling to see their grandchildren
* To celebrate Grandparent's Day by honouring grandparents, & give grandparents an opportunity to show love for their children's children
In 2017, Gabrielle gave birth to a 2nd daughter Lillie-Mae, and again Social Care took Lillie-Mae from her parents care. Lillie has been adopted and I will never see her!
I am now contacting you to ask for your help and/or support.
I 200% believe that I have done nothing wrong to deserve not having contact with my granddaughters. Because of the errors made by Social Services and the GP, I am not allowed to have any contact with either Amelia-Rose and Lillie-Mae.
I am desperate for 2 things;
1. Somehow, work with the Police through my Organisation to raise awareness of alcohol and drug abuse
2. Give Grandparents the right to have contact with grandchildren if circumstances are right.
Amelia-Roses' step father had no right to tell Social Services not to let me have contact and he also has no right to stop me having contact with my daughter!
Please please please, help me? Anything will be appreciated if it means getting a step closer to seeing my granddaughters.
I am literally at my wits end now. It has been over 2 years since I last saw Amelia-Rose, and I have never met Lillie-Mae.
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This site has been set up with the hope that I will have your support in changing the Laws in the UK surrounding the rights of Grandparents having contact with grandchildren.
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