This page has been set up as many of Tot's friends have asked how they can contribute towards a fine send off and celebration of the life of this lovely man. Kate and Daisy are very grateful for all the support and messages they've received, and would like everyone who knew Tot to be able to come and have a proper get together with music and song, to reminisce, to rekindle old friendships and forge new ones, just as Tot would have wanted.

Tot's funeral will be at Worcester Crematorium (WR3 8HA) on Tuesday April 30th at 1.45pm. Please wear what you like - there is no dress code. Family flowers only please. This will be followed by a wake and celebration of Tot's life at The Drum and Monkey near Upton Upon Severn (the-drum-and-monkey.co.uk, WR8 0QP). We'll have a function room with vegan food. They have a music license until midnight so please bring instruments. We can have a fire outside on a raised fire pit too. There's plenty of room for camping or campervanning at £10 per night, with showers, toilets and electric hook up. Please contact the pub to book this up.

Many of us wanted to help Kate and Daisy in a practical way, and any funds we can raise towards this means one less worry for them at this difficult time. It was the idea of Tot's friends to set up this page, as we felt it was a lovely way to show how much Tot meant to us all, but there is absolutely no pressure or expectation to contribute. Please spread the word though, and know that you will be very welcome to come and celebrate the life of this extraordinarily kind and gentle man.