Weʼre raising £5,000 to help me and my baby girl get away from domestic abuse and leave my abusive partner, and get out of the debt he has put me in
- Bristol, UK
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I am trying to raise money to enable me to leave my partner. We've been together for 9 years, during which time the psychological and financial abuse has gradually escalated.
I am constantly being called names, belittled, made to feel worthless.
This morning he found a pack of chicken in the fridge that is a day past its use by date. He flipped, and said I was a stupid, ignorant piece of ****. No good as a mother as I'm no better than a little girl myself, and the next time he finds something gone off he'll make me eat it.
He controls all of our finances so I have to ask for anything I need, and never have cash of my own because I 'cannot be trusted'.
Since I had my baby girl 5 months ago its got so bad its unbearable, and shes already seen me cry too many times. Seeing her wince and jump every time he goes on a shouting tirade is awful, and its finally my last straw.
Unfortunately I don't have any family members who can help me, and I need to rent & furnish somewhere so I can begin to build a stable and secure life for my child.
I can't put my real name to this just in case he finds out. So far physical violence has been mostly just a threat, apart from a few shoves. I am terrified that will change if he finds out what I'm trying to do.
If anyone reads this - thank you for just going that far. If you read this and find it in your heart to donate even a small amount - I'm eternally grateful and cannot even begin to tell you how much it means to me.
All I want is a peaceful life with my girl, and to raise her away from this sort of thing so she doesn't grow up thinking its normal.
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- 5 months ago
Em Gn5 months ago
I also just wanted to add something else to the above. The abuse I suffer isn't just mental, but also financial. He controls all of our money to the extent that I have to ask for everything, even sanitary products and if he thinks I'm going through them too fast then its a real struggle and argument to get more, which is utterly humiliating. As an example - last month I noticed a hole in my jeans (they are old), I was told we couldn't afford them, yet the next day he bought a PS4 game (cost £45). I am also in debt (about £5000) because of him
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About the fundraiser
I am a 32 year old woman, mother of a 5 month old beautiful baby girl who is the only good thing in my life. Hoping to raise money to leave an abusive relationship, and raise awareness of domestic abuse, mental and financial abuse. These things can start subtle and end nasty