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Tony Pinch

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raised of £2,000 target by 101 supporters

Weʼre raising £2,000 to remember Heather Pinch (1973-2020), a fierce and fabulous woman taken from our lives far too quickly and too soon xxx

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All that is needed is an internet connection and a device that can display video, and this email invite to access the webcast.

Please note you may be prompted to download an app if you are viewing on a smartphone, laptop or Ipad. This may be best in advance of the ceremony. The livestream is through Microsoft Teams.



*The page photo is from 2016, before our lives were turned upside down - happier times and the way we want to remember her*

"If you were a tree

I could put my arms around you

And you could not complain

If you were a tree"

Neil Hannon

(the last time I was with her, before I knew we were reaching the end, I gave her a huge hug and, bless her, it hurt time, I'll be able to hold onto her for as long as I like as she doesn't hurt any more - for this lyric to be the first thing someone wrote as a comment with their donation touched me deeply)

Information about Nab Hill added below, the site where her tree will be planted. After her first diagnosis and removal of the 'mothership' tumour, she achieved something off her bucket list, a tattoo of a stag. Reading the second paragraph about Nab Hill in the booklet I received today, it feels even more right....

I am already in awe and speechless at all the love and generosity shown to us. I thank each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart, you are giving me strength, courage and the determination to make her proud by doing what I think would have been her wishes

On the morning of Friday 16th October, 2020, the world lost a unique person who never really accepted how loved and adored she was by so many people around the world, both face to face and in her online life - how many lives she touched and, in her life's work as a therapist, saved. The tributes, love and kindness shown by so many since she finally gained peace from the cancer that , along with the medicines and procedures she'd bravely endured for over 3 years, had brought her body to its final rest, are testament to how she managed to bring just a tiny bit of brilliance into so many lives.

Eventually, her body tired of the fight, though her clever and quick mind was still reaching out and, when we last saw her on Thursday evening, able to share her last words of love with her beloved and brilliant daughter, Megan, who she adored and was so incredibly proud of, and she passed away quickly and peacefully in her sleep later that night.

In the days that have followed, as we've tried to come to terms with the whole thing, people have reached out, wanting to remember her and contribute towards something in her honour, kindness and generosity we'd never expected or considered.

We didn't get much chance to fully plan how she would be laid to rest but, as through the last years of her life, we plan to do our very best for her and keep her at the centre of my plans, thinking of the best that she would have wanted.

We will be planting a tree in remembrance of my idol, my soulmate, my inspiration and my beloved guide through life through the charitable organisation

recommended to me by a very good friend.

New life will be brought into this world to mark her passing and provide a peaceful and beautiful place for anyone who loves her and misses her to visit and remember her. Her ashes will be interred at the base of the tree and the site I have chosen is as close to her happy place, to quote a favourite song of ours, as I can manage -

"I go where the mountains rise

On either side of a peaceful valley

I go where the gentle breeze

Blows through the trees and eases my mind"

This is a new experience for me, crowdfunding, and we have no expectations of anyone, especially in these hugely difficult and challenging times for everyone. Your love, kindness and heartfelt messages are more than enough and gratefully received. We will keep them all as part of my own memory of her.

However, if you feel you would like to donate in her honour, please feel free to do so and share if you want. The target total will allow for at least the planting of the tree, a memorial plaque and the interring of the ashes. The organisation then uses the funds to support a variety of very worthwhile charitable medical causes. Anything beyond this will also be used in Heather's memory or donated to Clatterbridge Hospital, Wirral, who cared for her throughout and whose nurses and doctors in Liverpool treated her with utmost dignity and respect at the end.

I would like to end with the phrase coined by one of her doctors this week who, even in the shortest of times that she knew Heather, was able to describe her as 'fierce & fabulous'. Those of you who knew her will know how fitting a tribute that is.

Farewell, my dearest fierce & fabulous wife and thank you for nearly 30 years of awesomeness and for leaving your legacy in our gorgeous, clever, talented and witty daughter, Megan.

All my love, now and beyond

Tony xxx

"She battled through in every kind of tribulation

She revelled in adventure and imagination

She never listened to no hater, liar

Breaking boundaries and chasing fire"

Laura Mvula

*The page photo is from 2016, before our lives were turned upside down - happier times and the way we want to remember her*

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  • Tony Pinch1 month ago
    Tony Pinch

    Tony Pinch

    1 month ago

    Just sharing an update that the link for the live stream of the service is now available - I've added it to the page as well as the date & time. As ever, I have no expectations of anyone and neither would Heather but it's there if you'd like to join us. xxx

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  • Tony Pinch1 month ago
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    Tony Pinch

    1 month ago
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    Honestly, everyone, I'm flabbergasted by the love you've shown Heather, Megan and I. When someone suggested this to me as a way of allowing people to donate in her memory, I hadn't even considered that people would want to do so! We all pootle along in our own little lives, knowing in our hearts the people we are with are special to us, but to have so much love, kindness, generosity and fondness from around the world for Heather is terribly humbling. I have no words. Bless you all xxx

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  • Tony Pinch2 months ago
    Tony Pinch

    Tony Pinch

    2 months ago

    An update to thank all of you for your generosity of spirit. Heather would be speechless at everything you're saying about her and the support you've given me & Meg. The cremation will be at 4pm on 28th October. If anyone wants to pay their respects at that time in whatever way you choose, I'm sure a little bit of her energy will be with you. The 'service' will be livestreamed (as if we haven't all had enough of Zoom by now) if anyone wants, and is able, to join us remotely - I'll add more details as I have them. Bless you all Tony & Megan x

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Page last updated on: 10/31/2020 09.02



  • Anonymous


    Oct 31, 2020

    I will miss the snatched conversations in the work kitchen walking away still laughing. I will miss her fun. Thinking of you Tony and Meg x


  • Caroline


    Oct 29, 2020

    Thinking of you both Tony and Megan xx

  • Garry Azzaro

    Garry Azzaro

    Oct 28, 2020

    Big hugs to you and yours, fella x


  • Lindsay


    Oct 28, 2020


  • Shirley Considine

    Shirley Considine

    Oct 28, 2020

    So saddened that Heather lost her fight, she was so brave. Hope you and Megan get all the support you need today from your family and friends. Love Shirley & Mike x x


  • Jane Windsor

    Jane Windsor

    Oct 28, 2020

    Heather you will always be remembered for your strength and courage, your kindness and understanding and just being you.Goodnight good cat Jane xx


  • Helen


    Oct 28, 2020

    Sending all my love to you both xxx


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