Story
This is Haelwyn’s story :
"For three years, my fiancé Luke and I have fought for the family we’ve always dreamed of. Loss after loss and heartbreak after heartbreak has marked our path. Losing babies creates a pain words cannot hold.
Giving up was never an option, I was meant to be a mother. Now, at last, I am carrying our baby girl, Magnolia. Finally we made it to 20 weeks and we were told she was healthy and thriving. For the first time in years, I felt I could step into life again.
The next day I was rushed to hospital and within 24 hours I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer that had already spread to my liver. For years, my symptoms were brushed aside as “just pregnancy,” “just loss,” hormones, anxiety, IBS. Because of that, I was given the wrong test, a sigmoidoscopy instead of the colonoscopy I desperately needed.
The tumor was missed. If they had done it properly last year, it would have been caught before it reached my liver. My life, our future, might have been so different.
By the time it was finally found, doctors told me I had only days to live without emergency surgery.
At that point, I only cared about my daughter, she was my only concern. I was determined she would come first, that she would live. This time, I wasn’t going to let anyone dismiss me.
The surgeons performed a miracle, saving us both. Magnolia came through untouched, but my body is now fragile, with more surgeries and endless chemo ahead, if I’m lucky enough to make it that far.
Still, I’ll fight with everything I have to see her smile, hear her voice, take her first steps, hopefully even wave her off on her first day of school, every moment beyond that is a dream I refuse to give up on. I refuse to not fight for this miracle.
For now I live in limbo. Because I’m pregnant, doctors can’t run all the scans they need. We don’t 100% know if the cancer has spread outside what we can see right now.
Every day, I hold on to Magnolia’s kicks as proof we’re still here, still fighting together.
Luke, my amazing Finance is my rock, the true love of my life. The thought of leaving him and our daughter is unbearable but for now, I cling to hope, and each moment we have."
I was a Make-Up Designer, a job i have had to give up in order to commit to fighting this disease with all I have. . It means we are now a single-income household. Luke’s work means he is away from home for long periods of time, so there will be frequent occasions when I will be home alone with our baby Magnolia while going through aggressive chemotherapy.
Money raised will be put towards :
- A night nurse/ nanny to help look after Magnolia on the nights I am to sick to.
- Household items including , groceries, diapers.
-taxis to get to and from treatment or appointments as I cannot take public transport due to my immune system.
- continuing to be able to pay my bills, now that I as a freelancer can no longer work during active treatment.
- Alternative pain relief therapies that are unavailable on the NHS, i have made the choice to stop the aggressive pain medication advised so I may be more alert and able to look after Magnolia safely.
- Moving Homes, as Haelwyn and Luke have to reluctantly had to move houses - their current flat is on the top floor of a building without a lift, and Haelwyn can no longer climb the stairs. The house we live in we had to get quickly and rent is so expensive as any Londoner knows and we didn’t have time to wait to find one that a better rate. So this really drains our funds each month.
-Medication, some treatments, medication and some surgeries are not offered on the NHS . These could greatly help increase or even possibly save my life.
Day to day life- nowadays we all know that living on a single income is almost impossible never mind with a little one. Life is expensive at this point I’m merely existing not living we can’t afford anything that could bring joy. I dream of a holiday from all of this, I dream of giving my family a break from this burden put on them. Where we could just have a few days somewhere where we feel “normal” where we can remember who we are , enjoy our beautiful girl.. not worrying about how we going to afford diapers this month or the rent let alone a break.
The extreme financial stress is weighing heavily on all our hearts, at a time when we deserve to be cherishing every moment of this wonderful, well-deserved chapter of our lives.
Any contribution will help to give us the gift of stability, comfort, dignity and strength as we enjoy Magnolia in our world, and carry on this fight together.
Thank you all for your kindness and support. Thank you for not allowing us to walk this path alone.