I‘ve never had to do anything like this before, and can only hope, my story helps you and I, understand, how a normal life and health, can change in a split second.

I am a family man, with simple values and never wanted for much, other than happiness and health.

Well in November 2013, my life and my family’s life changed forever and even now , other our plight worsens every day, with no light at the end of the tunnel, apart from suicide. Its a very selfish act on my behalf, but ive yet to go out with my son together as Father and Son do. My Life is the main Bedroom in the house, 24/7 and nearly 365 days a year, apart from hospitals, but they visit me as all treatments have to be outside of Linconshire, because they do not have a spinal division in the whole of the County. I cant travel anymore, so if its a prcedure, I have to be sedated at home with a team and flown by Helicopter to whichever hospital will be treating, because my sponal cord is so dangerously close to snapping snd killing by either bleeding to death, movement and snap and paraplegic and suffocate. Just to reduce pain, which is minimal, I have machines that pump, Ketamine, slow reaease Morphine, Oxy-Norm and Tizanidine. I have no muscle left in legs, also set to lose my bladder, due to one of the side effects of Ketamine. Both legs maybe amputated if nothing more can be done.

My life changed for the rest of my life, on that day, as I was walking along a Path to a meeting. A car was been driven by a woman, with a phone in her hand, held to her ear and doing more than the 40mph speed limit. I had no Idea that this woman had lost control, coming down a busy road and mounting the kerb of the path, I was walking down. I stood no chance to avoid and took the full force of her car from behind and throwimg me far enough over a high fenced and bush and I hit an office wall with my Torso, breaking my back Instantly. I already had some steel work done to my spine 15 years ago. What was not realised until scans were done, that she pushed a rod already there, futher and stuck in to my spinal cord.

This lady, failed to stop and carried on, but luckily a bystander managed to take down a number plate. That car was found 2 days later, burnt out, on the outskirts of Leeds. It’s owner was eventually found and arrested. Charged with dangerous driving, and using a phone without hand free etc, she was due to appear at Leeds Magistrates court. She never turned up, and had fled back to her country of origin, never to be seen again, and given a 6 months prison service in her absence, if ever she was found to return to this country.

As you can imagine, that’s a huge bitter pill to swallow and trying to put to the back of your mind, while learning how to live again, ie this time, living in a bed 24/7 . I am not allowed to use any type of wheelchair or be sat in an ordinary seat, still to this day, because of the damage done to spinal cord canal, which is irreversible damage, plus I also have a high frequency nerve stimulator implanted in to my spinal cord, as my whole body is on fire, with pain and total nerve damage. This may not sound a lot, but I can not stand to have clothes touch my skin. It’s like being on fire all day and night. I get around 3 hours sleep in a 36 hour period, because of that damage.

Side effects are huge and that is, what you took for granted before, you now have to learn to live another life. I’m 58 and I can’t come to terms with that or my family adjusting. In fact it’s me alone and them basically, as I’m no longer useful to them in my own mind.

I can’t help them at all, nothing!!!

Since 2013 and operations and told there’s nothing more can be done, we have battled and mean battled to get help, which I thought, being naive, would automatically come along, like carers, adaptations, and so much more..... How wrong and stupid am I ??

Since 2013, we have been turned down 5 times for what as we understand are the normal changes for safety and for ease of access. We were told our local Council, that the following will be fitted if we fit the criteria???? Surely, not able to walk and and be lifted everywhere or washed would be enough?? No!! The simple reason after 5 applications, and 50 charities, is that my Wife works!!!

If she was to give her job up, we would get what I’m trying to get below, if she stops working, then as a family, we would fit the criteria. BUT IF MY PARTNER STOPS WORK, WE THEN LOSE THE HOUSE!!! It’s a s simple as that.

We have nothing, no savings, nothing.... We can’t afford 3 meal per night, so I try to go without or water and slice of toast. This is why I have attempted suicide 2 times. I’m not proud of it at all, and of course is very selfish, but I believe they are better without me.

I’m here today and I can assure you, I feel totally embarrassed and a sense of failure, by asking if you can help us to raise money for the following. I’m asking, as it has become dangerous for my family and friends to carry me in to a bathroom in a duvet, which takes 6 people, and laid in a traditional shower, with my legs hanging out, just to try and keep clean. I’m also carried down stairs sometimes, and it is sometimes, to go to hospital appointments. But again lifted by a sheet, by 6 people down the steps and In to a car with a mattress in the back, as I can’t sit. All of this has had to stop by law.

We’ve been told we can afford the adapting to the house, by the council, because my partner works, well I am more than happy to show you our bank statements, were we live on £214 per fortnight. After my partner pays the mortgage, bills and fuel, we have nothing.

Finally, I haven’t sat downstairs and just have a chat with my family for 5 years now, and just see the same 4 walls in my room, all because of someone, who couldn’t pull over and use her phone correctly.

SORRY FOR ABOVE PHOTO: THIS WHAT YOU SEE ABOVE HAPPENS AROUND THREE TIMES A WEEK OR MORE AND CAN LAST UP TO 18 HOURS... THE BRAIN WHICH IS DAMAGED AFTER THE CAR HIT ME, SENDS MY WHOLE BODY IN TO, LOCKED POSITION AND MEDICAL SPASMS, AS PER PHOTO. IT TAKES ENTONOX GAS AND AIR, PLUS ELECTRIC SHOCKS TO RELEASE MY WHOLE BODY.

Well here goes!!! We are looking and hoping you could help us by donating or passing this appeal around to as many people as possible, as we need for safety reasons only, but also to reduce the pressure on my wonderful family and friends.

1) Wetroom

2) Through Ceiling lift (Law states must be through ceiling, for spinal injuries, and not a stair lift)

3) All indoor, door carcasses bigger for wheelchair.

4) Possible ramp outside to front door.

I can only dream of any of this, but I thank you, for reading and hope at least, you could pass this around to as many people as possible, or donate, if again, possible ???