So most of you that knows me knows that i relocated here with my husband almost 10 years ago, but what you don't know is what you are about to find out!

I came to the UK in 2009 with my husband and a few months in this country i found out i was pregnant, however at 24 weeks i found out that my baby’s heart stopped and they had to remove my baby! It was one of the most traumatic things i had to go through!

after loosing my baby i was diagnosed with pelvic congestion syndrone, a condition very rare and most dictors dont know how to treat as its very specialised and had to undergo numerous operations. Its a condition that cannot be cured !!

After the traumatic experience me and my husband split up as we just could not deal with it as a couple. In 2012 i met my current partner Wesley Buxton, one of the most amazing people i have met in my life. We found out that i was pregnant again and although it was up and down throughout the pregnancy my waters broke and i gave birth to my beautiful daughter Lilli-May at 29 weeks.

As someone that did not even know that you can have a baby so premature this was a very difficult time in our lives as Lilli-May had to stay in hospital for months but she survived and is now a healthy beautiful 3 year old princess that wraps both mummy and daddy around her little finger 😂

Anyway we have been together 6 years coming September but i never got divorced as we have not been able to afford it and to top it off, although i have been in this country almost 10 years we are not allowed any government support what so ever until i become a citizen. I cant become a citizen as i need to get divorced first and then i can apply for citizenship.

The reason for the fundraising is because if i do not get divorced and apply for a new visa by next July, England will ship me right back out to South Africa, and although i love South Africa, i would not want to bring my daughter up in that country!

The reason i left the country in the first place is due to me being molested most of my childhood life by my own father and I was also gang raped as a teenager, but not only did i go through this and survived i have been hostage in over a dozen armed robberies and also been attacked in my own house! So there is no way i am risking my daughters life raising her there and taking her away from her Daddy (Hero)!!

If they are shipping me it would be my and me alone BUT i do not think its fair for happy families to be split up due to a lack of finances and be ripped apart especially when i have been working since the 3rd day of entering this country and paying my taxes ever since.

Don't get me wrong, I know there is a lot of people out there that struggles and we all know how expensive childcare is!!

The aim for this fundraising is so we can stay together as a family but also to keep raising money for other families that might be in the same or similar situation.

Happy families should be happy together so all i ask in support today is a small donation, even as small as 50 pence to help keep my family together and other families that also need help !!

Thank you for reading and supporting and sharing.

Lots of Love ❤️

Marlene x