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Life After Loss is an online support community set up in November 2006 by bereaved mothers who found support and friendship through sharing their grief over the loss of a baby.
Life After Loss is for anyone who is affected by the loss of a baby, at any stage of pregnancy or after birth. This kind of loss is simply devastating, and often misunderstood by those who have not been through it themselves.
The focus of this site, as its name suggests, is to help people to 'pick up the pieces' and somehow continue with life. At times this is not easy, but with each other as support, these woman aim to show that it is possible to go on. Life will never be the same again, but it can be bearable, and with time you can learn to live again and even smile again.
Our second pregnancy was a much wanted pregnancy. Things were far from straight forward from 12 weeks in. I started bleeding heavily, but baby was always fine when checked by scans / blood work. Noone had any idea of what was happening as the weeks past, but so long as baby was okay, i was okay too. I was at aberdeen maternity hosp almost daily, but always got the same answers, baby was fine, they didnt know why i was bleeding, some women just do.
The morning of the 2nd of Jan 2007 i woke to intense Pain in my left side. I called 999 and was rushed to hospital. Again baby was just fine, they had no idea why i was in so much pain so admitted me so the hosp could managed my pain and bleeding.
That day they kept me on regular morphine injections and gas and air, but the pain didnt ease any. I was taken over to the main hosp to have a scan of my organs to see if anything else was going on, again that was fine, i didnt look at the scan window that day as they were not scanning baby, i wish i had, it was the last time David my husband would see our daughter alive.
That night i sent david home for some sleep, i was in good hands, i woke back of 12am on the 3rd wanting the toilet, thats when our sleeping daughter was born, noone was expecting it but she came. Myself and David spent the next 24 hours with her in a moses basket in my room, not understanding what had just happened or why.
We burried our daughter a few days later, still with no answers and feeling so alone.
A few weeks after our loss, i decided to turn on my PC and see if i could find anyone whom had been in the same boat as me, i wanted someone to understand. That is when i found Life after loss. That site has been a god send it really has, its got me through so so many bad days, and also let me talk about Ray, and how wonderful she was, what this organisation has done for me and other mummies i couldnt even begin to repay.
It breaks my heart when new members join this forum, but i remember how alone i felt before i found life after loss, and how wonderful it was to have them there, they are like my extended family. Its now time for me and David to do a little something to give back to Life after loss.
On sunday the 20th of June, My husband ( along with 6 others involved with life after loss ) will be abseiling down the Europa Hotel in Belfast to raise money for Life After Loss. Please Dig deep and help uus raise money for ssomething so close to our hearts
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