When we lost Adam, I found that writing helped me connect to my experience and my feelings about our loss.  I found it therapeutic being able to write it down, and really helpful being able to read my thoughts to other people to help them understand how I was feeling. 

I started to think I'd like to put together a booklet of writing about baby loss and was delighted when other people touched by baby loss offered their writing to be included as well. And so the booklet 'Love and Pain: words about baby loss' was created. I'd aimed to do this for our first anniversary of losing Adam, but fell behind on my goal, so I'm now promoting it in memory of his due date.  

We're currently selling this for £5, plus £1.53 postage. I'll be selling the booklets through Etsy and will post regular updates on here to log how much we have raised through sales. 

Our Etsy page is: https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/929784262/love-and-pain-words-about-baby-loss?ref=shop_home_active_1

If you feel able to buy a copy for yourself or someone else and/or spread the word, I'd be so grateful. Thank you so much for your support of this booklet. 

Laura xx

For a reminder of why we're doing this, here's our story so far: 

Our son and Matthew's little brother, Adam, was born sleeping on Saturday 31st August 2019, after we were told at our 20 week scan that his heart was no longer beating. We were absolutely devastated. We were fortunate to have access to a quiet room in the hospital specifically for families going through this awful process. We later found out this room was funded by Fife Sands. We were given a pack full of information and also comforted by so many lovely, respectful little touches and momentos that we later found out were also provided by Fife Sands. 

In memory of Adam, and to allow us to feel that good may come from his short life, we have pledged, as a family, to raise funds for Sands. We feel so strongly that we want to support their work in helping any families who are unfortunate enough to go through what we have been through. Anything that can bring the tiniest glimmer of comfort is worth a go at such a sad time. 

Our first fundraiser was Matthew. He dressed as a fire fighter and took part in the Fife Sands Super Star Walk on Saturday 12th October 2019, six weeks after we lost Adam. Thanks to the generosity of our wonderful friends and family Matthew raised £385!! 

To start off 2020, Laura ran the Falkirk Epic 10k in Callender Park with her lovely friend Charli. The race took place on 19th January, which is roughly when we expected Adam to be joining our family so this was to honour him and fundraise at the same time. We were delighted to raise £770. Massive thanks to everyone who donated. 

Lockdown put a halt to the summer fundraising we had planned, so we decided to hold two online quizzes instead to raise funds and awareness. Thanks to the generosity of friends and family we raised £205. You're all amazing 💞

The journey continues...

Thank you so much, 

Laura, Andy and Matthew xx

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