please help me get out a spiral of debt. started just before Christmas. i got a drafty loan to prove to my wife of 15 years that for once besides taking a new job for less money but to see her and the kids more. and on the verge of separating that I would fund Christmas. started off ok was easy paying back the minimum amount. now that she found out I for some stupid reason thought to get another small loan to pay off the 1st. this month I took some of the 2nd to pay the 1st in the view to use the available fund from the 1st to pay back what I just moved from the 2nd loan.. it's all a complete mess. we've been separated but co inhabiting for 3 years. but still care for each other. I desperately need to sort myself out to show her I'm not a leech. worst thing I ever did is take this new job and now am looking for something else. but until something comes up. this is going to get worse and worse and will break her even more than she say now. I really need help. iv always been bad with money but now I'm really stuck.