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As a family we are walking 10 miles from Havens Hospice Thundersley to Havens Hospice Southend on 5th September. We want to raise funds and awareness for the Hospice and promote the wonderful staff.  Our children (some of Ray’s grandchildren)  aged 7, 3 and 1 are excited to also be taking part.  

Our Dad (Ray Mailley) was diagnosed with lung cancer two and a half years ago but it has since spread to other parts of his body including his brain and spine. 

Ray, 62, spent a week in Fair Havens in July. He  came in to get his pain medication under control. He was taking a variety of medication prescribed by various consultants which was causing dizziness and hallucinations.

Ray has a palliative care nurse that works with him in the community. Liaising with his wife, Jane, she referred Ray to Fair Havens for a medication review.

"I've avoided hospices like the plague. I always said I wanted to die at home. This stay has changed my mind. The entire time I've spent at Fair Havens, I've felt comfortable, secure and had the attention to my care that I needed.

"Everyone here at Fair Havens treats you like a human. Nothing is too much trouble. A small fruit cocktail I had for breakfast every morning. The hot chocolate with one sugar that the night staff remembered every evening. The gentle pat on a shoulder when I needed reassuring. Being called by my name and asked questions about my family. It's the little things that make the difference. The hospitals don't have time for that and I understand why. But when you're dying, that's what you need - not pity or sympathy, but genuine care and interest in you as a person.

"Within a day of being here, the doctors stopped my medication and started again on a new regime gradually, from a syringe driver to oral painkillers. The team has helped me to carry on with life, like getting showered and dressed, going outside and even climbing the stairs to assess what additional help I might need.

"Then the team focused on helping to get all the equipment I needed to go home and carry on living, like a bed and frame which will mean I can be independent for longer. I don't want pity. I'm a strong person and have great pride so this was important to me.

"It's been a joy to wake up here and as soon as my eyes were open, I was treated as a human being. The Care Team have a great, upbeat attitude which has meant everything. I was scared to come into the hospice. Now I'm sad to leave.

"When the time comes, and I'm able to come to Fair Havens at the end of my life, that's what I want to do. But for now, Fair Havens has actually helped me to become stronger. I'm well enough to be discharged and go home so I can enjoy quality time with my family."

It costs over £81,000 per week to provide care to the patients of Havens Hospice so any donation big or small would be gratefully received. 

Thank you.