Story
1 – 4 families will at some point in their journey to have a
precious child suffer a loss.
I am sadly one of the ones!! Like all of us who decide to take the leap to start a family you never consider the possibility something will go wrong. You see two blue lines and are blown away by the possibilities of what the future will hold, until something does go wrong. I was nearly six weeks into my first pregnancy when it went “wrong”, several trips to hospitals, endless blood tests and a scan that couldn’t locate a baby, I was diagnosed with an Ectopic Pregnancy in my right fallopian tube. Devastated, I was taken into theatre for a salpingectomy (removal of my fallopian tube). Once recovered I was determined to not let this one set back break me. I still had one fallopian tube, after all we only need one to have a baby. So the journey started again. 6 months later, something wasn’t right as they say, so I went to see my amazing doctor who confirmed I was pregnant. I was delighted, although a little scared, could this be finally happening for us?? However it wasn’t meant to be and I miscarried a few days later. Pushing the sadness to the side and determined to start again, I got on with everyday life and hoped when nature was ready she would give me my much longed for precious baby. Life passed by and every month came and went with no blue lines. Then miraculously I fell pregnant again. I can remember being so frightened I cried but equally had to keep myself positive. So our journey began again. Due to my history I was automatically given an early scan, by this stage I hated that EPU room. The scan revealed a second ectopic pregnancy in my remaining fallopian tube, I was crushed. Anther operation and now all hope of having a baby would be left in the hands of science and IVF.
In my mind IVF was going to be easy after all of this ?? They make babies happen! How wrong I was. First round, negative pregnancy test. Second round, pregnant - miscarriage, broken Sarah again. Third round, negative pregnancy test. Fourth round, pregnant – absolutely petrified!! Thankfully I was able to carry the baby to full term and nine months after seeing an amazing perfect embryo on the screen I was holding my precious little girl in my arms. Evelyn Betty was born on 16th November 2012 and every day I am thankful for her, she is my miracle baby.
I rarely talk about my journey to become a Mum but will always be honest when people ask. We as a team are coming together to raise awareness and show other families we are with you. We feel your pain, we are herewith you through the sad days, the good days in fact just every day. Tommys and all the other amazing baby loss charities support woman and families like me. They need much needed funds to continue research and to provide much needed support when you feel you have no one else
to turn to. Please support us.