On Sunday 10 December 2017 we woke up full of anticipation that this would be the day Lily finally arrived. We’d passed her due date the Monday before and were waiting for her, hoping she’d come soon. We made our way to the hospital later that day in labour and it was there that we were told that Lily no longer had a heartbeat. She was stillborn a couple of hours later.

We held Lily and she was so perfect she looked like she could have been sleeping. We spent that night and the following morning with Lily and our family. We were in shock that she was suddenly gone, a feeling that has stayed with us for a long time after. We were, and are, full of love for our beautiful daughter. Leaving Lily and coming home from the hospital without her was painful in a way that’s difficult to describe.

Since we lost Lily we’ve been trying to come to terms with our lives without her in it. We’d had a healthy pregnancy and were totally unprepared for what happened. Lily’s death was unexplained as she was healthy and there was no obvious reason that could be found for it.

We think about and miss Lily every day and are doing all we can to remember her with love. We are raising money for Tommy’s. Tommy's funds research into miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth, and this includes work to try and make sure that more parents get answers about why their babies die. 

Some events so far:

In 2018:

-Rosie, Clem and Alex ran 10k on 15 July 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♂️

-Uncle Alex did his first triathlon on 4 August 🏊‍♂️🏃‍♂️🚴‍♂️

-From 30 July to 10 August, Mustafa, Will and Paz rode the length of the UK from Lands End in Cornwall to John o Groats at the top of Scotland. They did 850 miles in 11 days 🚴‍♀️🚴‍♀️🚴‍♀️

-Rocky/Rakesh/Rak, Lily's daddy, organised a football game on 30 September - a really great turnout and atmosphere, with some quality football and lots cheering on from the sides ⚽

-Mel Parker-Stapleton ran the Chester marathon on 7 October - over £800 raised 💪

-Rosie's sister- in-law, Joey Bate, shaved  her hair off on 1 November to raise money for Tommy's and donated her hair to the Little Princess Trust - what a lady! 😊

In 2019 we held a charity football game. 

In 2020 we were limited in what we could do because of COVID but the 4 of us did a memory walk. 

Thank you for reading our page and supporting Tommy's and helping us to remember Lily. 

Love Rosie, Rakesh, Ralph and Coco xxx