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On the 2nd May, I experienced a devastating incident, which has inspired me to try and make a difference.
I started with a facebook post explaining how the tragedy that unfolded, made me feel. That post has since gone viral and I've been completely overwhelmed by the response it's had and the wonderful messages of support I've received.
I don't want to stop there though, which is why I've set up this page. If my facebook post has touched you in any way, I would like to ask that you consider making a small donation to this page, so together we can increase awareness of Mental Health issues and the woefully lacking support and infrastructure for Mental Health care in the UK.
The events of that day are still raw for me, but i'm determined to see some positivity come from it. I won't stop until Mental Health is at the forefront of everyone's minds and until provision is there for people to get the help they need all the time, everytime.
I plan to do a number of events going forward including a WingWalk (I'm terrified of heights). I wanted to get this page up though to start fundraising straight away. I hope you'll help me in achieveing my goals along the way.
If you haven't seen my facebook post, here it is;-
Well today began like any other day, setting off early to visit a customer. This time Devon was my destination.
Tragically this is a day that will now haunt me for a very long time and stay with me forever.
Shortly after passing Wellington heading south, as I drove through the
driving rain, a man decided to take his own life and jumped from a
motorway bridge onto the carriageway below. I managed to swerve and
avoid his lifeless, broken body, narrowly missing a car in the middle
lane. Others, however weren't so fortunate.
That moment I realised what my eyes had just witnessed and the face of this poor man, will stay with me forever.
I will admit I am struggling an awful lot with the events of this
morning but I know I will get through it, as I have wonderful family and
friends around me.
I guess the reason I'm writing this, is that I
don't want this man's life to be remembered as a broken, lifeless body,
or an inconvenience to the morning commute.
I want it to be a stark reminder to us all that suicide is all around us and mental health has for too long been a silent killer.
I've had my darker moments in life, as I'm sure many of us have, but I've been able to reach out in times of need for support, for love, for a hug, for anything. But it wasn't easy at the time to accept I needed that support or love. I was a man and I should just 'man up', I thought.
The reality is, too often people feel worthless, feel they can't go on,
feel that nobody would miss them. They're not cowards, they're
incredibly brave people who fought their battle alone, often with nobody
knowing anything was wrong. In those last desperate moments today, a
man felt so low, so absolutely worthless that he took his own life. All
rational thought was gone, he didn't wish to leave the impact on mine
and many other peoples lives that he has. In fact he most probably felt
he made no impact on anything or anyone and that is the real issue here.
At his darkest hour, he felt he had nobody to talk to, nothing to live
for. And that devastates me more than any of the harrowing images that
will haunt me in the months to come.
My wish is that we all take a
moment to consider our friends, our family, our neighbours, our work
colleagues, our classmates and just ask yourself, "Are they ok?"
I want everyone who knows me and any person I may encounter in life,
whether in person, through social media or other means to know that I'm here, I will listen, I'll hold you, I'll tell you it'll be ok, I'll be
your shoulder to cry on, anytime, night or day.
Just please don't feel worthless, don't cry alone, it will get better and know I am here for you.
Please share my thoughts and experience today far and wide with
everyone and anyone you know and let people know you too will be there
and if this post makes just one person realise they are not worthless or
alone, then a huge positive will come from the tragic events of this
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