Remember Rufus

Ceri Amphlett is raising money for Remember Rufus
In memory of Rufus Key
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Remember Rufus has been set up in memory of our beautiful firstborn son, Rufus Harry Jude Key, who was stillborn on 11th October 2020 due to a silent placenta abruption at 39 weeks gestation. Following Rufus' birth, we were able to spend 6 unforgettable days with our son thanks to having access to a Cuddle Cot. During this time we were able to do many of the 'firsts' we had dreamt of with our boy including bath time, his first walk, meeting his grandparents and story. The memories we created are etched in our minds and have helped us immeasurably in our grief process. Our aim is to make sure every parent who faces the devastating reality of losing a child has access to this fantastic equipment which allows families to take time making memories with their precious baby(ies) in a private setting within the hospital, hospice or at even at home. Those extra hours and days can mean wider family members are also able to say goodbye. Without a cuddle cot, a bereaved family will typically only have 10-12 hours with their little one before they are taken away. Many studies have shown that increasing the amount of time parents have with their child(ren) will assist them with processing the mental and emotional difficulties of losing a child. No amount of time will ever be enough, but allowing parents the flexibility and control of managing their final goodbyes in the way that feels best for them is something that all families deserve.

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Rufus’ story, our inspiration:

Sadly, on 11th October 2020, Rufus our firstborn and much longed for baby boy arrived already sleeping at 39 weeks gestation due to a silent placenta abruption and HELLP syndrome, a rare life threatening condition that can affect pregnant women.  Rufus was perfect in every way, weighing in at 6lbs 6oz, a whopping 51cm long with the most perfect button nose and lots of wavy red hair. We always imagined Rufus to be a wild boy, and his grandma placed a white feather in his hat like Peter Pan - now a very special story to our family.

We had no idea what to expect after Rufus came into the world, it is not a situation you make plans for in advance, but our wonderful bereavement midwife explained to us that we could have access to a Cuddle Cot if we wanted which would allow us to have Rufus next to us whilst I recovered in hospital. A Cuddle Cot is a cooling mattress which stops a baby’s body deteriorating, it can can be discreetly placed in a moses basket, cot or even a pram at hospital or at the family's home.  Thanks to this equipment, we were able to spend six unforgettable days together as a family, during which time we made memories which we will treasure forever, including introducing him to his grandparents and aunties, giving him a bath, taking him outside to let the sun shine on his beautiful face and endless cuddles and kisses. The feeling of love we experienced having him next to us has been immeasurable in helping us on our journey through this unique grief. 

Tragically, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss and on average, 15 babies are stillborn or die within 4 weeks of birth every single day in the UK.  Without the Cuddle Cot, a family will typically have around 12 hours with their baby, whilst no amount of time will ever truly be enough, we feel that having such a short time limit is heartbreaking, especially when considering medical complications can mean the mum is not well enough to be present.   

It is our mission to make sure every family has the option to use a Cuddle Cot, either in hospital or at home, to have the time to say the hardest goodbye in their own way, in a private and comfortable setting, with dignity and respect. 

So far Remember Rufus have donated 8 Cuddle Cots across England and Wales and we have many more hospitals on our waiting list.  Please support us in giving families who find themselves in this heartbreaking situation the gift of time, and help us create a legacy for our special boy. 

All for you Rufus, second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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£14,284.38
+ £1,085.09 Gift Aid
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