I’ve set up this page on behalf of Luke’s dad, Graeme, to raise awareness of men’s mental health following Graeme’s loss of his beloved son, Luke Kilby.

These words below are on behalf of Graeme x

On Friday 13th June, we sadly lost a son, brother, family member and friend, Luke Kilby. Unfortunately, Luke lost his battle with mental health, leaving us all devastated and heartbroken.

Through school, Luke had a lot of issues and was moved around many times. He was diagnosed with a couple of different conditions but he dealt with it as best he could.

As Luke grew older, he was very into cars as we all know. Modifying them, building them, buying them to use as ornaments at his unit. Cars was Luke’s passion and he used them to distract himself from his own head, leading the people around him to believe he was coping with his own mental health issues.

Luke’s mum was undergoing cancer treatment, and unfortunately, he knew she was coming to the end of her battle. This really affected Luke and he isolated himself, meaning no one knew what was really going on in his head.

This lead to his car crash due to the stress he was trying to deal with on his own being too much.

A few weeks later, his Mum sadly passed away, and Graeme and the people who cared about Luke tried to help him, tried to talk to him and understand what was really going on in his head but nothing helped and he grew more depressed as days and weeks went by.

A few months later, Luke appeared to be handling things better. He was ok some days and we believed he had got a hold of things. Although we knew Luke was far from right, he showed us to be functioning again. The doctors didn’t seem concerned for Luke as he pretended he was fine to them as well and taking his meds properly.

This wasn’t the case and has resulted in his battle being lost.

Luke had been suffering in silence for years and as devastating as that is for everyone left behind, we all need to remember that Luke is now at peace, and back with his Mum where he would of wanted to be.

Our pain of losing Luke will last forever, but his pain is finally over.

If only Luke knew how many people loved him and how many people wanted to help him, things might have been different.

You will never be forgotten Luke and will be loved forever.

We are all aware that men’s mental health is a big problem but now it’s hit close to home, I would like to raise more awareness about it.

In approach to Luke’s funeral, I am making bracelets so we can all share something of Luke together.

The money raised from the bracelets is going to a charity called ‘Andy’s man club’, which is a men’s mental health charity and has weekly meetings based in Ramsey, Huntingdon, Peterborough, and all over the country for men to have a safe space to talk in.

If you chose to donate on this link, please drop me a message with how many you would like and we can arrange collection of the bracelets, I am also bringing them to the funeral so you are more than welcome to bring cash and pop it in our donations box.

It’s only a little something, but it’s better than doing nothing and potentially letting someone else lose someone they love to mental health.

To our boy Luke, we will all love you forever and you will always be in our hearts. Keep smashing up BMWs up there. We will look after Graeme for you. We will all take this horrendous pain if it means you’re at peace.

Love you always Kilby xx