Lisa Kirby

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Fundraising for Remember Rufus
£660
raised of £300 target
by 32 supporters
Event: London Landmarks Half Marathon 2024, on 7 April 2024
In memory of Rufus Harry Jude Key
Remember Rufus

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RCN 1192076
We raise funds to purchase cuddle cots to support bereaved parents and families.

Story

So I am running a half marathon, yes me...a half marathon! This is a huge challenge for me but nowhere near as hard and challenging as the heartbreak of losing a child, something my family unfortunately know too much about.

Where to begin...having been through IVF and finding out I was pregnant in November 2020 I did not think I could be happier...I was wrong! When my sister told me she was also pregnant and our babies would only be weeks apart I was over the moon, I just could not believe I would get to do this journey with my best friend...and drink wine during mat leave! When Tillie was born in August Ceri and Billy were straight round for practice as Rufi was only weeks away.

I cannot describe the feeling of getting that message from Ceri to tell me we had lost him, I say we as he is very much a part of my family. I collapsed but I knew I had to be there when he was born and whatever feelings I was feeling I could not imagine their pain. He was perfect with a mop of red hair and perfect fingers and toes.

The amazing legacy Ceri and Billy have created for my gorgeous nephew astounds me every day and I could not be prouder. Cuddle cots provide families with the gift of time and without it I would not have got to spend precious time with my nephew.

This is for you Rufi...Auntie LaLa loves you to the moon and back...second star to the right and straight on till morning wild one xx

About the charity

Remember Rufus

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RCN 1192076
Remember Rufus has been set up in memory of our beautiful firstborn son, Rufus Harry Jude Key, who was stillborn on 11th October 2020 due to a silent placenta abruption at 39 weeks gestation. Following Rufus' birth, we were able to spend 6 unforgettable days with our son thanks to having access to a Cuddle Cot. During this time we were able to do many of the 'firsts' we had dreamt of with our boy including bath time, his first walk, meeting his grandparents and story. The memories we created are etched in our minds and have helped us immeasurably in our grief process. Our aim is to make sure every parent who faces the devastating reality of losing a child has access to this fantastic equipment which allows families to take time making memories with their precious baby(ies) in a private setting within the hospital, hospice or at even at home. Those extra hours and days can mean wider family members are also able to say goodbye. Without a cuddle cot, a bereaved family will typically only have 10-12 hours with their little one before they are taken away. Many studies have shown that increasing the amount of time parents have with their child(ren) will assist them with processing the mental and emotional difficulties of losing a child. No amount of time will ever be enough, but allowing parents the flexibility and control of managing their final goodbyes in the way that feels best for them is something that all families deserve.

Donation summary

Total raised
£660.00
+ £158.75 Gift Aid
Online donations
£660.00
Offline donations
£0.00

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