During Hospice Care Week (8 to 14 October 2011), hospices across the UK aim to get people talking about hospice care and what it means to them, and to encourage people to support their local hospice. My twin sister Rosalie was cared for at the end of her life (age 35) at the Duchess of Kent House, a hospice in Reading. I was hugely impressed and moved by the care she received there.

 

In Rosalie’s family room (formerly a 4-bed ward), the children could play without disturbing other patients and there was a spare bed and a sofa where relatives could sleep. Her room had a small fridge, where we kept her well stocked with treats. Patio doors from her room led via a ramp directly to the glorious gardens, where there was also a wooden playhouse for children.

There were other surprises and comforts. The hospice cat occasionally wandered in and was allowed to sit or sleep on Rosalie’s bed. The hospice aromatherapist gave hand massages to Rosalie and to my mother.

Rosalie and David were married in a sunny day room by the hospice chaplain, Judy. All the staff helped make this a day to celebrate.

The Family Support Service (bereavement) and nursing staff made time to talk with close relatives, and answer questions.

On behalf of the patients, relatives and friends whose lives are so well supported by the Duchess of Kent House, please remember Rosalie with a donation. Feel free to leave a message or a story about Rosalie as well. Many thanks, Gillian.

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