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In late October 2024 I'd noticed that Jamie's eyes had a yellow tinge. Jamie confessed to having odd colour stools and urine (the only symptoms).
After a visit to A&E the diagnosis was suspected bile duct stones. We were worried but relieved.
After an exploratory op, bile duct stones were ruled out and Jamie was diagnosed with a form of Pancreatic Cancer in November 2024. There was very little warning and no symptoms in the months before the diagnosis.
In mid December 2024 Jamie underwent one of the biggest operations a human can have, the Whipple procedure.
There were risks but Jamie bravely went for it, survived it and battled with incredible humility through the recovery.
By late January Jamie was back on the fells (I was terrified but so happy) and started chemotherapy.
It was a new challenge, but as from the beginning Jamie was determined to win this fight with the most positive attitude you could only imagine.
In February Jamie did his last Wainwrights with the support of his good friend.
We also attended the wedding of Jamie's colleague. We both loved seeing Keziah getting married. It made us both (briefly) very happy and hopeful, but also very emotional.
Chemo made Jamie tired, he lost some hair and the skin on his feet peeled off. This didn't hamper Jamie's positive attitude.
If one could cure Cancer with a positive mental attitude, Jamie should've won this battle! His mental strength was extraordinary.
In March 2025 Jamie got an infection which lead to hospitalisation. After several tests and scans Jamie was told that the Cancer was back and had spread.
Jamie returned home and chose not to tell anyone about it, instead taking me to our dear friend's wedding on the 28th of March. In Jamie's style he did the most amazing Best Man speech and made me so emotional that I cried most of the wedding (making me a less then ideal guest).
The hope was that with chemo we could push the Cancer back or pause the decline.
In the last few weeks Jamie couldn't eat anything, struggled to sleep and was disappearing in front of my eyes. It was the hardest time of our life together, yet Jamie read me a poem each morning and told me how lucky he was to have the life he had.
It was heart-breaking, terrifying but we kept going, reminiscing about the ups and downs of our life but mostly celebrating our love.
Sadly in April, just after Jamie's 53rd Birthday, we were told that he had weeks, maybe a few months, left to live.
Cancer had progressed at lightning speed and Jamie passed away at home surrounded by family and friends on the 24th of April 2025.
It was the most beautiful sunny day filled with bird song when our beloved, funny, warm, loving Jamie fell asleep.
Bea
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