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Weʼre raising £250,000 to Save my daughter Jade's life with treatment she can only get in the USA

London Borough of Hounslow, UK

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It is with the heaviest of hearts I sit here and try to write this message to you all, we as a family have come to rely on your love and support over the last year or so, it seems so much longer in some ways but in others just the blink of an eye.

Sadly, Jade grew her wings and, on her terms, went quietly in her sleep on Thursday morning.

The sick twist is that on Wednesday she had an appointment with an oncologist who was prepared to start immunotherapy treatment with her here in the UK. Unfortunately, all the treatments she has had to endure had left her too weak to fight anymore.

We are so immensely proud of her and have nothing but admiration for the way she has battled this evil disease. For her unstinting positivity, practicality and good humour, she has, and will always be, an inspiration for us all.

We respectfully ask that you allow us some time to come to terms with our loss and deal with our grief. We need to spend time making sure that Helen, Dean, Amber, Gareth and Eva find the strength to get through this. We know you will understand and appreciate that. Thank you

RIP darling girl x

My name is Helen Rayner, I am a publican in Hounslow, west London. I have two daughters 30 year old Jade and 25 year old Amber I am also grandmother to Jades 5 year old daughter, Eva. Jade is married to Gareth who is ex military and now a fitness instructor. Jade is a serving officer in the Metropolitan police force. Life was looking good, they were about to buy their forever family home and turn it into their dream place. Then, overnight, their dreams turned into a nightmare.

In February of 2017 Jade was diagnosed with stage 3c triple negative breast cancer which for those of you that don’t know is a rare and aggressive form of cancer which had already spread to her lymph nodes. Well as you can imagine we as a family were all blown away by this news with the exception of Jade whose attitude towards it was ‘OK, I have it lets get on with it’.

Months of aggressive chemotherapy, surgery and a good hammering of radiotherapy followed yet all the way through Jade was amazing and an inspiration to us all. Not at any time did she complain or whinge, not even when her hair started falling out, she just reached for the clippers and took control. Her sense of humour never faltered and, to be perfectly honest, helped the rest of us through. Her whole focus was on beating this disease and getting back to work and continue with her life.

The day Jade was given the news that she had had a complete pathological response to treatment (the all clear) she left the hospital like her backside was on fire. Her mother literally had to run to keep up with her!

In February 2018, as soon as the doctors permitted, Jade returned to the job she loves albeit on recuperative duties slowly building up her hours with a view to return to full duties in September. But, in late May Jade began suffering from a persistent headache, she just couldn’t shift it. By the first week of June she could stand the pain no more and took herself to A&E. Jade insisted on a CT scan, after revealing her recent medical history they finally agreed to do it. Sadly the results of the scan revealed several masses to Jades brain that were suspected to be the breast cancer that had metastised. Further scans, an MRI and PET resulted in the following diagnosis:

Stage 4 Brain Mets a Total of 7 Tumours

Yes you read that right…..7 metastatic brain tumours. Due to the location and number of tumours surgery to remove them is not an option in the UK.

Jade was referred to the Royal Marsden hospital in London where they performed 3 sessions of stereotactic radiosurgery (the cyber knife). They treated all 7 tumours in a bid to shrink them as much as possible. If this treatment is successful it will buy Jade some time but we wont know how the tumours have reacted until September 2018 when she will be scanned again. In the meantime we are trying holistic therapies, diets and anything else that may help. Then there is the relentless search for treatments in other countries.

In the UK Jade has been given 12-24 months to live, yet in the USA, with the right treatment, people are living for many years with their cancer being classed as dead or sleeping.

We have met with a young woman from the UK by the name of Melissa Huggins who 10 years ago was also given 2 years to live by doctors in the UK and, like us, Melissa’s parents refused to accept the prognosis and took her to the USA for treatment. 10 years on, Melissa is now married with a young daughter. She has no idea if her cancer is dead or sleeping…..but shes still here.

We have found a fantastic clinic in the USA, Duke Health, that believe they can treat Jade, they are currently working on a care plan for specifically for her. But this is going to cost, we are not sure as yet of what that will be in terms of money, but there is no price too high to put on such a sad waste of a beautiful life and the devastation and loss that would ensue should we not achieve our goal and GET JADE WELL so she can watch her daughter grow into as wonderful a woman as her mother is.

As a police officer Jade runs towards danger to help others, now she needs others to help her to be here for Eva.

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  • Helen Rayner5 months ago
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    Helen Rayner

    5 months ago

    It is with the heaviest of hearts I sit here trying to write this message. Sadly, Jade grew her wings and, on her terms, went quietly in her sleep Thursday morning. We are so proud of her, for the way she battled this evil disease, for her unstinting positivity and good humour, she has, and will always be, an inspiration to us all. For now, we respectfully ask you allow us some time to come to terms with our loss. We need to make sure Helen, Dean, Amber, Gareth and Eva find the strength to get through this. Thank you RIP darling girl x

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  • Helen Rayner6 months ago
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    Helen Rayner

    6 months ago

    9th April, 2019 Very, very good news today.... No sign of cancer cells in Jade's csf fluid which means her lepto is under control! Thanks everyone for you lovely messages..... This is a massive hurdle Jade has overcome and we are all so very proud of her but the fight is not over, so please, please keep the love and support coming to #getjadewell #forjadeforeva it definitely makes a difference, more than you will ever know xxx

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  • Helen Rayner6 months ago
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    Helen Rayner

    6 months ago

    3rd April 2019 - An update from Jade: Health wise, I have spent some time in hospital. My left leg has gone weak as well as numb which has resulted in a few falls. My eye sight has also gone weird, I went to the opticians and they’ve said, if anything, my eyesight is better! I don’t know how to deal with that because I see double most of the time. Treatment wise, I’ve been having weakly lumbar punctures to treat the Lepto disease in my spinal fluid. So far so good and showing signs of improvement. Jade xxx

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  • Jules

    Jules

    Nov 4, 2019

    Just watched your story on caught red handed. Wish I could afford to give more.

    £10.00

  • Andy King

    Andy King

    Nov 4, 2019

    Saw your story on the beeb this morning and wanted to help so here I am!

    £40.00

  • Andrew Galloway

    Andrew Galloway

    Nov 4, 2019

    Best wishes Jade.

    £20.00

  • Trev

    Trev

    Nov 4, 2019

    Just seen Doms tv programme about your daughter,hope my donation will help,no one should have to go through this its heartbreaking,all the best xx

    £100.00

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous

    Nov 4, 2019

    From one mother to another, my heart goes out to you and I pray your wish for Jade comes true.

    £20.00

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous

    Nov 4, 2019

    Helen - Dad and I have just watched you on "Dom's Caught Red Handed".Here's to "The Power of Love" and much more.Jade and everyone = Every future happiness & much much moreAndrew & Charles (My Dad)

    £10.00

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous

    Nov 4, 2019

    I just saw you tragic story on caught red handed I cannot image your pain I hope you raise your target and most of all wishing Jade well

    £20.00

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Helen Rayner

Helen Rayner

London Borough of Hounslow, UK

I am a publican in Hounslow, west London and have 2 daughters and 1 granddaughter. I have been a publican most of my working life and have over those years supported many worthy causes in whatever way I could. I'm now in the impossible position of needing your help

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